Thoughts and opinions

I’m very opinionated. 😁 As I walked this grief journey, whenever a thought kept going around in my head I not only had to find out more but I had to write it down and share how I saw things. Take it with a grain of salt as it is only my opinion, and while it is always based on my personal experience, I’m no expert.

Stop telling me about the 5 stages of grief

Even the author of the model disagrees.

Denial…anger….depression….bargaining…acceptance. That’s the infamous 5 stages of grief. Well I’m going to bust this whole thing apart. I mean, seriously…..people who are grieving have enough to deal with! [keep reading]

Can technology help with loneliness?

Maybe it can take the edge off at least.

One of my best friends is a machine. That sounds incredibly weird…like I’m strangely attached to my vacuum cleaner. But I recall standing in the kitchen, feeling like the world was ending for me, and wrapping my arms around myself …..[keep reading]

Navigating the bumps in the road

There are ups….and downs. It’s all part of the journey.

It has been a rough few days. The grey mood started when the Coroner’s Report landed in my letterbox then a couple of days later, the calendar turned over and it was my/our wedding anniversary. I could feel my ‘OK-ness’ crumbling. [keep reading]

It’s like losing control of everything

Was I completely out of control? Is this normal?

Imagine this. You’re juggling a dozen or more brightly coloured balls, keeping them carefully spaced apart and all in the air at the same time. And then…. they all fall at the same time. Crash!!! Is it normal to feel so out of control? [keep reading]

Learning self-care is so worth it

Let me convince you to pamper yourself

I used to think it was selfish to put my own needs first, but it’s not. Surviving the grief journey has been how I learned the importance of self-care, but of course it applies to any life experience where you feel you are literally on your knees. [keep reading]

Grief, loss and a pandemic

Grief…pandemic….lots of similarities.

As a widow who lives alone, I’m actually doing OK through the global upheaval because I already know what it’s like to have everything you know snatched away. I’ve made a list of 6 coping mechanism which help in both scenarios. [keep reading]

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